Home Introduction Role Models About Arfah

America Affinis Labs PeaceTech Diniyat center Hack the hood TechWomen Open SV Kapoor Center Workplaces in Silicon Valley

Pakistan Caramal Tech Studios Venture Dive PITB NIC Epiphany NUST WeCreate KITE Habib The Nest

UAE AstroLabs YouthHub Zileej/Salam Sisters DTEC

Home Introduction Role Models America America Affinis Labs PeaceTech Diniyat center Hack the hood TechWomen Open SV Kapoor Center Workplaces in Silicon Valley Pakistan Pakistan Caramal Tech Studios Venture Dive PITB NIC Epiphany NUST WeCreate KITE Habib The Nest UAE UAE AstroLabs YouthHub Zileej/Salam Sisters DTEC About Arfah

Impact driven. Creator. Diversity personified.

America

Affinis Labs

PeaceTech

Diniyat center

Kapoor Center

Open SV

Hack the Hood

TechWomen

Workplaces

Had a lovely few days of history, food and art in Rome! Is it too soon to count down till our next holiday? 🙊 #alhamdulillah #rome #arfahamza

Relatives and maintaining bonds: I've been reflecting alot recently on what it means to maintain ties with extended family. One thing I realised after marriage is I had to learn certain etiquettes, for example, if someone passed away I had to do an afsoos/give my condolences directly to the aunt or uncle, whereas in the past my mum did it on behalf of us. In doing so, that has meant I've had to call up the aunty who I hardly see or talk to and it got me thinking, once our parents are no more then what happens to those ties?
We all have cousins we were best friends with as kids but then life or family drama got in the way and now you barely manage a few sentences when you do see each other at a wedding. You came to that wedding through an invite via your parents but do you even have contact with that cousin anymore beyond the parents' bonds?
It makes me think that in the future your child could end up in the same school as a cousin’s kid and they wouldn't even know they are related.
Re-building bonds are difficult and recently with the constant reminder of how short life is, it has made me realise the importance of that awkward convo with your aunt or uncle or cousins in Pakistan, or the simple act of just dropping by a relative’s home if you happen to be in the area. This is all key to keeping that connection alive.
A few months ago my mum's cousin invited us to come around when we were up north. I pushed it aside and said that we were too busy as we already had our own plans but little did we know a few months later he would sadly pass away. I look back on that and realise a slight detour could have meant I met my uncle one last time.

It may be awkward and you might not even have much to say but maintaining ties is something so ingrained in our faith and culture and it's important we don't lose it in our busy lives.
Say Salam and check in.
#reflections #connections
#family

Arfah

Away day for product managers at GDS that I organised alhumdilliah went well. Lots learned! #ProductPeople https://t.co/9FVJENFUrR
Jul 5, 2019, 6:40 PM